10 Uncommon Twin Flame Signs You Need to Recognize Now

True or false twin flame?

It was a question I started asking myself as soon as I discovered the term “twin flame.” And it’s one of the hardest questions to answer. After all, a false twin flame follows almost the same storyline as a real one. I spent hours reading and watching videos online to discover if the man I had met was even a twin flame in the first place. Was he displaying uncommon twin flame signs or just straight-up toxic?

Many twin flames are very similar to narcissists. If you think your twin is a narcissist, you probably have to learn an important lesson about yourself. The love bombing, the turmoil, the discarding, the hoovering, being obsessed with each other, and codependency—these are all signs of a narcissistic relationship… and also of a twin flame bond.

Many articles make you believe that a false twin flame is a toxic or narcissistic relationship. They say you have to get out and wait for your real twin to come along. According to the main narrative, the false twin is only there to teach you lessons and resolve karmic issues. Walking away from them will make space for your real twin flame.

Well, through my own twin flame journey, I’ve learned two things:

1. Many twin flames exhibit narcissistic traits, whether they are real or false twins.
2. Not all narcissists are twin flames—especially those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

Uncommon Twin Flame Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore

If you think you’re in a twin flame relationship, it’s also time to take a deeper look at narcissism. Twin flames are real, but they exist because we have to heal something within ourselves. Have you considered that you might also have narcissistic traits? On the other hand, if you’re in a toxic relationship that isn’t a twin flame dynamic, you may be dealing with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). It’s crucial to recognize the signs and remove yourself from that kind of relationship.

But how do you know if your partner is a twin flame or not? Here are some uncommon twin flame signs:

1. Mutual Spiritual Awakening

The easiest way to determine if your partner is a twin flame is to see whether both of you entered a spiritual awakening after meeting. A spiritual awakening means you’ve woken up from our matrix society. You start seeing through the layers of money, power, and ego that define most of our world.

You question everything around you and feel deeply unhappy with your old life. You can’t be the person you were anymore, and you feel an intense desire to figure things out. If your partner is also going through this, pay attention. This person is in your life to teach you major lessons and could be your twin flame.

A narcissist might also experience a spiritual awakening, but they often use it to inflate their ego. They make others believe they are more special or the “Chosen One” with a unique divine connection. However, you will eventually see that their awakening isn’t genuine—it’s just another part of their narcissism.

2. Activation of Core Traumas

One reason twin flame relationships are so intense is that they activate all of our core traumas. You had no idea you could love someone so much, yet they trigger you immensely. You swing from extreme attraction to extreme anxiety. This happens because a twin flame is a mirror, forcing you to look at yourself.

Facing that mirror is often too much to handle, leading one of you to run (hello, runner/chaser stage!). If your partner doesn’t just trigger your core traumas but actively makes them worse, you may be dealing with a toxic narcissist, not a twin flame. A toxic person plays games, while a twin flame also has their core traumas activated by you.

3. You Are Opposites

Twin flames are yin and yang—the embodiment of masculine and feminine energy (regardless of gender). What you lack, your twin flame possesses, and vice versa. You likely learned similar life lessons but through opposite experiences. Together, you feel complete.

What you admire in your twin flame is something you also have within you, and what you despise in them reflects your own shadows. At the core, you are the same soul, but in human form, you are opposites. You both recognize that your relationship is unusual, yet you are willing to do whatever it takes to be together.

4. Desire to Grow and Know Yourself

Meeting a twin flame changes your life forever. The connection you feel is unlike anything before. And it’s mutual—your twin flame feels it, too. Suddenly, you have a deep desire to understand yourself.

Why do you feel this way? What other secrets does the universe hold? Who are you? Who are they?

A real twin flame sparks the desire for deep self-exploration. You’re not in this relationship just for companionship—it defines you. Both of you want to grow and understand what’s happening on a soul level. Eventually, the desire for personal growth becomes even stronger than the desire to be with your twin flame. This realization often leads the runner to leave, knowing that separation is necessary for healing.

5. Change of Life Direction

A twin flame turns your world upside down. You probably meet them at an inconvenient time—maybe one of you is married, they’re your boss, there’s a big age gap, or they aren’t what you thought you were looking for. But after meeting them, your entire life shifts.

You might finally have the courage to file for divorce. You might quit your job and follow your dreams. You might move countries (like I did). You might suddenly want children, even if you never did before (also me). Something drastic will change in your life after meeting a twin flame because they make you feel strong enough to finally take action.

6. Telepathy and Altered Consciousness

If you are in a twin flame relationship, your consciousness expands. You develop heightened empathy, especially for your twin. You feel emotions you’ve never felt before. Some people even begin seeing auras—my twin flame used to tell me I had a “purple light” around me, something he had never seen in anyone else.

You start feeling what they feel, even when they’re far away. You have sudden moments of clarity, even about their struggles. Some twin flames experience telepathic communication. I used to wake up at the exact moment my twin flame started his morning meditation, even though we were in different time zones. After we broke up, I still had subconscious conversations with him that revealed truths I had no way of knowing—truths that later turned out to be real.

7. Messages Through Psychedelics

I’m not saying you should run to your local dealer for LSD or magic mushrooms, but psychedelics can reveal truths you’re unwilling to see. I was sure I had made the right decision to leave my twin flame. I knew he was narcissistic, and I wanted to protect myself.

I believed narcissists couldn’t change and that I had to walk away forever.

But every time I took psychedelics (whether ayahuasca, shrooms, LSD, or even breathwork that altered my consciousness), his spirit appeared as a loving, warm force around me. It baffled me. How could a narcissist feel so safe and secure? He would guide me during the trip and keep me safe. Afterward, I would feel immense empathy for him again.

It made me realize that narcissists have a beautiful soul trapped inside a broken mind. I had seen that soul during our relationship, and psychedelics reminded me of it whenever I forgot. I could write an entire book on the revelations I received in altered states of consciousness. If you have experience with psychedelics, they might reveal the truth about your twin flame.

8. Unable To Forget

Another part of the uncommon twin flame signs is that you will never forget them. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t forget my twin flame. After our breakup, I went through different healing rituals, cut energetic cords, and wrote down reasons why we shouldn’t be together. But still, after months, I couldn’t get over him.

Unlike a typical narcissistic relationship, where you feel relief after a breakup, with a twin flame, you are drawn to them even when you try to move on. I couldn’t stop thinking about him every day, even spotting his car everywhere. I tried dating other people, but no one could match the connection I had with him.

9. You Experience Unconditional Love

Most people don’t understand what unconditional love really means. A true twin flame relationship inspires a love that has no boundaries. Can you love your twin flame even if they’re with someone else? Do you wish them the best, even if they don’t come back to you? This kind of love is the foundation of a twin flame connection.

When I found out my twin flame was dating one of my close friends, I initially felt devastated. But as time passed, I truly wished them both happiness. I realized that this was a big step in curing my own narcissism — I no longer held onto jealousy or resentment.

10. Diving Timing Is Part of Your Connection

If somebody is your twin flame, there is nothing in the world that can keep you apart. It might take years or maybe even lifetimes to get back together, but it will happen. They might even come back in another human body (maybe as your child) when you have both learned your soul lessons.

If your twin flame is healing like you did, and also surrenders to unconditional love, you have to trust in divine timing. It won’t happen before both of you are ready. This means that both of you have to face your core traumas and your deepest shadows. If one of you doesn’t heal from that, you will never get a twin flame reunion. It really is that simple. There is no point in forcing things, each of you will go at your own pace.

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Uncommon Twin Flame Signs or Narcissism?

There is a reason why narcissism and twin flames are such popular search terms, and often go hand in hand. Your twin flame came into your life to make you look into the dark mirror that you have been avoiding. If you recognize your relationship in any of the signs above, the first step is to look at yourself and learn to love that hurt child in you again. Inner child work and shadow work will help you with this. Your partner will do the same if they are really your twin.

But if you feel like you are in a narcissistic relationship and your partner doesn’t show any of the twin flame signs, please read about narcissism and leave them. Be careful to not get fooled by spiritual narcissism, which is a form of narcissism where the narcissist uses spirituality and ‘special gifts’ to make them feel better than anyone else.

A real narcissistic personality disorder is very hard to heal, especially if the other person doesn’t have the desire to be aware of their problem. Protect yourself and let go.

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