The Meaning of Twin Flames & How To Trust Your Intuition

There is a lot of speculation and misguidance on the meaning of twin flames. When I found out that what I was experiencing might be a ‘twin flame’, I scrolled for hours trying to find an answer. But many experts I came across all shared something different.

Here’s the truth, though: no one knows exactly what you are going through. You got on this spiritual journey for a reason, and only you will know the answers. Not from what you read or watch online, but from within.

The twin flame journey is incredibly confusing. Everybody has a different opinion about it and thinks they know what’s going on. But since this is a divine intervention, only your intuition has the real answers.

However, this is also exactly where the challenge lies — your intuition is out of tune when you meet a twin flame.

That’s exactly why you met them.

Guidance for when your intuition is confusing you

We all have a powerful intuition — a force that whispers to you whether things are good or bad for you. When we are children, this force is pure and innocent. It guides you in your first life experiences and tells you when something feels off.

Remember, you would run away from creepy people, or the knot in your belly twists when something is not right? That’s your intuition trying to protect you. But what if your childhood was a place where that energy was stunted?

Maybe you had emotionally unavailable parents, were abused or yelled at often, and generally didn’t feel safe growing up. Your intuition was trying to get you out of that place by sending you all sorts of signals, but you were just a child. You had nowhere else to go.

So what happens is that you get into survival mode. Your intuition takes a step back, and your body is just trying to make it as comfortable as possible for you.

You subconsciously learn to please your parents to receive the love you are craving so much. So you adjust to push away those stomach knots because there is nothing you can do about them anyway.

The Meaning of Twin Flames and Why You Met

And when you’ve grown up, this survival mode feels normal. Your whole life, you have learned that you are not good enough the way you are, and you have to be a certain person in order to be loved. You try to fit in and quickly learn behavior that pleases others.

On top of that, our society conditions us to be a ‘good person’. Get your education, find a partner, buy a house, and make some babies. And work your 50-hour job and don’t complain.

But inside you are slowly dying.

Is this what life is about? Living from paycheck to paycheck and letting the days pass you by? Everyone else seems to be doing it too, and they seem happy — why does it feel so wrong for you?

The truth is … it feels wrong because there is so much more to life. Our society has made you believe that this is how we are supposed to live — but it’s not.

And that’s what your twin flame came to show you.

Then the twin flame comes along

Many people meet their twin flame when they are already in some sort of commitment with another person. Or their twin flame is. That’s another reason that makes this journey so hard.

You thought you were living life how you were meant to live it, and suddenly, you meet this magnetic person who just turns everything upside down. What’s going on?

Or maybe you are not with anybody, but you are secretly depressed and know something has to change. You move through life as if it’s not yours. You are there, but you are not really present. And then you meet your twin flame.

Your twin activates all your dreams and desires

This person makes you feel alive! The passion and love you feel with them is overwhelming. This is what was missing from your life. But soon, your world crumbles apart even worse than before.

In my case, I had already escaped the society life. I was a backpacker roaming the earth, in search of something I would never find. Secretly, I didn’t admit to myself how lonely and sad I actually was. I had a lot of superficial, temporary friends, and always had the feeling I never quite fitted in. So I moved on.

Always searching. Always looking for the next thing. Surely, in that other country, I would find it. But I never found it. There was always something better right around the corner. The corner where I wasn’t at that moment.

My twin flame made me feel more alive than I had ever felt

So when I met my twin flame in a dusty town in Mexico, I thought I had finally found what I had been looking for. He was the reason it never worked out with anyone else. He was the one I knew existed somewhere.

Every cell in my body was buzzing with love. Suddenly, the world was a beautiful place to be in. I promised myself I would do everything in my power to stay with this person.

But soon enough, reality started to pierce through again. Slowly showing me I had fallen in love with a copy of my father — somebody I had been craving his love from when I was a little girl.

The love bubble I was in came crashing down hard when I realized my twin was as narcissistic as my dad. I had no choice but to walk away at some point — my twin flame was slowly killing me.

How to find the way back to yourself?

It’s not easy to walk away from your twin flame and everything you thought you needed. But all that you need, you already have. You won’t reach that state by going back to your twin all the time.

You need to go through the Dark Night of the Soul for that. And many people don’t want to face the darkness. It actually secretly makes them feel good to be miserable. It’s the easy way out. It’s the way they felt all their life already.

But if you knew what was waiting for you on the other side, you wouldn’t hesitate one moment to embark on it. It took me more than three years to reach the other side, and I am so glad I did. My life has completely turned out after meeting my twin, and I can finally be my True Self.

Without him.

Where to start?

It’s a dedication to be on this journey. You will have to peel many layers away from yourself. You will have to make conscious choices. Ideally, you will have to spend a lot of time in solitude — meditating, journaling, taking care of your body. Nature will become your biggest friend.

You will truly face yourself in the darkest moments. Most likely, you will cry a lot while holding your inner child. You will find out the truth about your traumas, conditioning, and attachment styles. The veil of the matrix drops, and it can never come back.

Are you ready for that?

I believe everybody can heal themselves. But if you have big traumas, you might want to talk to a therapist about that. Find somebody who is holistic — who takes the mind-body-soul connection seriously. We don’t exist without all three, and everything is connected.

You can heal yourself

If you don’t feel like talking to a therapist (like me) and want to do stuff yourself, I highly suggest getting into a self-healing routine. Eat healthy foods, do exercises that are gentle but profound (I love yoga and pilates), and meditate daily. Read spiritual books and tune into yourself and what other masters have to say. Stay away from toxic people and toxic substances.

Now is not the time for spiritual bypassing — leave your tarot card readings, crystals, sound healings, etc., behind and do it yourself. Your true guide is inside you. These things can be of great help, but at some point, it’s you and you alone.

How Journals Can Help You Find The Meaning of Twin Flames

It can help a lot to answer prompts that you don’t usually think about. That’s why I love shadow journals. These are journals that give you a question or exercise that will make you really think deeply. A journal can also give you a nice routine to keep on track with your self-healing.

I recently published a shadow journal especially for twin flames, which is based on my own tough lessons and the real meaning of twin flames.

But eventually, it’s your journey, and you will feel it when you’re ready.

“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” — Caroline Myss

Until then, I hope my articles can help you make sense of what is happening. Because we all need a little guidance sometimes.