Are Twin Flames Meant to Be Together Forever?

It’s been almost five years now since I first met my twin flame. I remember it like yesterday — the moment I looked into his eyes, I knew he was going to change my world around. And he did. More than I could have ever imagined. The question “Are twin flames meant to be together?” never left my mind.

When we broke up a year later, he told me we would be ready for each other in five years. That was the moment his kids wouldn’t be teenagers anymore, and he wouldn’t have a full-time family to take care of any longer. When he said ‘five years’, I had no clue how to possibly be capable of waiting five whole years to reunite with him. I wished I could just fall asleep and wake up five years later to be with him again.

And now those five years are almost over — and for four of them, we have been separated. But all those years were the most meaningful in my life. This includes the first year that we were together, but even more so, the years we were separated.

Meeting myself

Because it was in those years of separation that I finally met myself. Not the person I perceived myself to be — independent, sexy, never in need of anyone or anything — but a wounded inner child who never learned to receive love.

It was a profound journey inwards — to my daddy issues, my secret low self-esteem, and the answers to why I had become who I was and why I could never fit in. And also why I could fall so incredibly in love with a person exactly like my dad.

It gave me an immense gift: my intuition. I realized it had always been with me, but I had pushed it away. It made me never trust my own instincts because I was gaslighted all those years as a little girl by my father.

I was always wrong, and he was always right, no matter what had happened or what he truly knew about the situation.

It made me lose trust in who I really was.

Twins are always meant to meet each other

Now, looking back on that first moment of gazing into my twin’s eyes, I know it was my intuition trying to speak to me. But I didn’t understand it yet. I thought it was divine love — the butterflies in my stomach were going crazy. After all, I had never felt such a strong connection to anybody else before.

I do believe there are other worldly forces out there that bring us the things we need most in life. That includes our twin flame. There is no way that you can miss the opportunity of meeting your twin — and it will happen exactly when it’s supposed to.

Skeptics who don’t believe in twin flames will say that it’s just a figment of your imagination. Or a trauma bond. And they are not wrong. Because you create your own reality, and so you also manifested your twin flame. And you also created the hardships surrounding that experience.

Your soul designed that for you to learn. You were/are most likely stuck in life, not having any idea where you were headed. That’s why your twin flame suddenly becomes all the reasons you are alive. You tell yourself that a part of you always knew there was somebody out there.

And that’s true. You were always meant to meet your twin flame.

Twin flames in the quantum field

A twin flame relationship is supposed to be a huge catalyst in your life. If it’s not, they are most likely not your twin flame. But it doesn’t really matter what label you give it — it’s what you learn from it.

At some point, you will have to choose for yourself. Because by choosing yourself, you are also choosing your twin flame. Think about it — you are connected with everybody on a quantum level. It doesn’t matter if you are separated or not; you will influence each other all the time.

Imagine we, as Souls, are spread out on a grid around the Earth’s energy field. We all carry a unique vibration on that grid. Sometimes, two souls start vibing on that same vibration, and they will naturally pull to each other. As long as you emit the same frequency, you are going to be magnetically attracted to each other.

Once you meet in reality, your energies magnify, which is why it feels so powerful. You are basically the same person at that moment. It’s like a sound wave — as long as the same waves are emitted, you won’t hear a different track. You completely merge together.

The separation frequency

But at some point, your frequency changes. You have your life with your experiences, and so does your twin. And because you are mirrors to each other, a ton of triggers rise to the surface within this relationship. Just one little difference in vibration causes a discrepancy in your energy. And you naturally start expelling each other.

This feels incredibly hard. How can the person who once felt like your everything suddenly pull away from you? And the more you resist, the bigger the pull will be. Your energies simply don’t align anymore, because you need to start learning your lessons. This is all part of the plan. It’s exactly why you met each other in the first place.

If you don’t accept this reality, your life will become harder and harder. It’s like trying to push two magnets together on the same side. It just doesn’t work. You’re expelling each other right now. But when you both turn around, the magnet will start pulling again.

How to turn around?

You might ask yourself how you can turn around to get the right side of the magnet facing your twin again. And you do this by going inward, away from your twin. You first need to neutralize your energy, so you can emit a clean vibration once you are ready to connect again.

And here comes the paradox: your vibration will most likely be permanently different from your twin after you’ve done the inner work. Only if they do the same deep work as you, will your vibration become equal, and you will pull to each other like magnets again.

But most people don’t do the real work. They scratch the surface of the darkness, decide they don’t like it, and turn back to their old life, with their old wounds.

It happened to my twin, too. He saw the darkness after we separated, but the lure of the light was too bright. He went back to his old toxic life of cheating, playing power games, and manipulation.

Our vibration never matched again after that.

It’s all about you

You probably have the urge to heal your twin flame. To show them that your love is enough to help them. I know exactly how it feels. You see the beautiful part of their soul, and that’s who you fell in love with. That place feels like home.

When the darkness hits, you get reminded of that beautiful place over and over again. You want to go back there. You start blaming external forces — their partner, their addiction, their traumas. If only there were a way to show them your unconditional love…

And that is exactly where it goes wrong for many twin flames. They have so much unconditional love for their counterparts that they forget to love themselves. Can you imagine how that works on a frequency level?

Your frequency lowers because all your love goes to your twin. In return, your twin starts expelling you because your vibration changes. You are not on the same level anymore.

This is an endless game of push-pull. Or in other words, the runner-chaser stage.

You cannot heal your twin flame

It doesn’t matter how much you love your twin — you can never heal them. They met you for the same reasons you met them. To heal themselves. You cannot do that for them; in fact, it will only make things worse. They will start losing their authenticity because you are taking it away.

The best thing you can do for your twin (and for yourself) is let them heal on their own. Many won’t do that, but the few that do will finally break the spell of their own wounding. And when that happens, a true love relationship can emerge.

But if only one of you heals, your frequency will never be the same. And that is a good thing.

A new reality

Five years ago, I dreamt about this moment in time. When his kids would be old enough to go to college, his wife would be out of the picture, and we could finally focus on each other.

But now, five years later, I see reality how it is. We met each other at a divine timing and were both given the opportunity to heal. We connected on the same frequency at a quantum level, experienced immense love together, and felt the same separation pain.

But I chose to go inside, take therapy to understand my traumas, and face my demons. He chose to go back to his old life.

A new frequency

We both grew up in life for five more years. The five most profound years of my existence. I came out on the other side with a new vibration. I no longer have an avoidant attachment style, and I no longer get attracted to narcissists.

My twin also changed his frequency, but not in the same direction as me. And I finally see and accept that we were divine only for a short moment in time. It was a beautiful and horrifying relationship, one that I will never forget. One that I will forever be grateful for. One that healed me. And that is exactly what twin flames are supposed to do.

I do know that I did this to myself. I needed to experience this to evolve. Hence, I created my own reality — before, during, and after the relationship.

And in return, I got my intuition back. Now I trust myself when things or people feel off. I listen to my gut feeling when something is not right. That means I honor my body giving me signals about bad situations. And it’s the biggest gift I could have ever received. Which is all thanks to my twin flame. I could finally choose my own reality.

What reality are you choosing?